A World of Cheese, For your Pleasure

Ode to the 70s

Over at Creamlog, they have made a superb compilation of photos from the 70s. What a decade in which I was born. I actually remember a little of the 70s holdovers in the very early 80s. In fact, being born in late 1974, I am happy to say that I can remember as far back as July 1978. Which of these photos can you best relate to?

Figging

Learned about a sexual practice today called figging (NSFW, and neither is this entry come to think of it). From the wiki on figging:

Figging is a sexual practice involving the insertion of a prepared "finger" of ginger root or even chile pepper into the anus. The burning sensation is said to induce intense pleasure. The technique is used by some practitioners of BDSM.

Ginger may enhance sexual pleasure by increasing blood flow to the genitals. The genital muscles, supplied with more energy, can produce especially powerful orgasms.

Sounds powerful indeed. It goes on to say that a related term is "to gin up". This naturally reminds me of these two. Ginner girls are Scottish for ginger-haired lasses, which is where Ginner Girl gets her name. Now I can't look at her the same way. More respectfully now, of course, for being so kinky. In name at least.

Mob deep

I happened upon an article about group sex and how to organize a modern day sex orgy. (Notice how I specified the type of orgy. This here is a CHEESEorgy, quite different. Or maybe not THAT different.) I read the very beginning of the article. Here, I'll reproduce it for you.

Certain conditions that are sometimes present in groups can lead individuals to experience a psychological state of deindividuation, a feeling that they have lost their personal identities and merged anonymously into the group. This may lead to impulsive, uncivilized behavior.

The following factors lead to reduced self-awareness.

- Anonymity
- high level of emotional arousal
- focus on external events
- close group unity

Reduced self-awareness often also means reduced self-control. This gives the individual:

- weakened restraints against impulsive behavior,
- increased sensitivity to external cues and current emotional states,
- inability to monitor or regulate own behavior,
- lessened concern about evaluation from others
- lessened ability to plan rationally.

This of course can lead to horrible mob activity. I wonder a few things.

• Has anyone here been part of a violent mob? Do you know anyone that ever has? How does it feel to be part of such a mob? What really happens to you? Does it happen the way they say it does? Is being part of a violent mob a more secret version of littering, something that many more people do than admit to doing (exceptions noted)?

• Is consumerism a non-violent mob mentality (exceptions noted)?

• If you can get people to shed their individuality, their consciences and their brains, can you get large numbers of people to frantically go out and do good things? Isn't this the basis for so many goodwill organizations? Why doesn't it ever happen? I guess it has to do with order. Mobs are the antithesis of order, and good works seem to require it. You can't randomly have good things happen on any meaningful scale. I guess I answered my own question.
  

  I'm pretty sure that the article is very interesting, but I won't comment on the group sex part until later.

  Posted by JonasParker at 1:32 PM | Comments (1)

Buying into sexy

Last month, CBC had a special segment about the sexing up of very young girls. You can read it and hear the audio here. Having a six-year old stepdaughter and a six-year-old niece, I can appreciate the concerns that some parents have regarding the influences shaping young girls today. The article highlights several interesting things facing the lives of young girls, although I won't claim that these things are necessarily new. Some salient points (actually, I just felt like saying "salient"):

• The first thing to notice is that since tweens (people aged 8-14, and that's the last time I will ever use that stupid term) have money, and that companies are using sex and sex appeal to get that money. Why do kids that young have so much money? They aren't working, so I guess that parents are just giving it to them. But why? Aren't parents supposed to be buying things for kids rather than have them buy things themselves? Well, naturally there is the nag/guilt factor. Which means that the parents' money now belongs to the child. It bothers me that a nine-year-old is determining where money goes to that extent.

  Also, teenagers have jobs, where before they tended not to. Parents give money away as though they are paying off something they owe to their children. It's like they pay them off to avoid parental responsibilities. This free money is being given to younger and younger kids.

• Industries are using imagery to get girls to want to have what they see on TV. A sexed-up image is largely in the eye of the beholder, however, it's pretty unmistakeable when 12-year-olds are shown images of how to be consisting of wearing revealing clothing and having a sexy attitude.

  I was shocked to hear that about three years ago a local discount clothing store, L'Aubainerie, was selling thongs for seven year olds. Am I wrong for assuming that thongs are for accentuating one's ass and avoiding pantylines? If that is true, why is this important to a seven-year-old? Who's making it important?

• Sex bracelets? What the fuck are those? Has anyone ever encountered one? Does anyone reading this have a relative of friend's kid that has or wants one? Or even knows what they are? Granted, many of those sexual games elementary boys and girls are playing with each other now also happened when I was growing up. You just had to be in the "circle". I just don't remember bracelets.

• It's very clear that companies are trying to push adult material onto the younger set. They even have a name for it: age compression. I have a name for it: corruption. (However, in the end it may not be any different from the fostering of any other type of consumerism.) Since they are definitely trying to get kids to think like adults even if they aren't necessarily capable of it, this brings to question whether or not these products are actually age appropriate. Seems to me that by definition, they aren't. I mean, age compression? If that's the case, why are these companies even allowed to sell this stuff to kids? Can't sell porn or booze to kids, because they aren't age appropriate.

• Many mothers are quite desperate for their daughters to be accepted, whatever the cost. Apparently, for girls, being excluded for any reason is the worst thing you can do to them short of sexual abuse (and I am positive that there are some who, given a choice at the time, would choose the abuse). They acutely feel what at stake: to be part of the gang. This allows women who would normally step in and sensibly restrict certain purchases and behaviour to allow them, sometimes grudgingly, sometimes enthusiastically.

• Many fathers are quite desperate for their daughters to be kid-like when they are kids. However, it seems as though they are being shouted down by the daughters, the mothers, the stores, the media, pretty much everyone. They don't feel as though they have the power to actually intervene in what many of them clearly believe is irresponsible behaviour.

• If kids aren't allowed to see images like the one on the right on web sites or in many other kinds of media, why are they allowed to see them on Much Music? Most kids trust that what they are allowed to see is entirely fine, and that parents that try to say otherwise are being too rigid and so on. I remember feeling that way like it was yesterday. It was impossible for me to understand, then, and I don't know what anyone could have said for me to understand. But if someone (parents and teachers, perhaps) would teach kids that the images that they see in the media aren't necessarily good ones, that would go a long way. (Unfortunately groups that tend to encourage media responsibility like to restrict everyone's activities to fit what THEY are comfortable with as adults. I am conflicted.)

• Companies encourage and thrive on children manipulating their parents. So much so that they have developed a science to study the nag factor, or pester power. I am sure that there are clear and precise math formulae out there for it. Works in relationships, too, but I doubt that there's as much money in it.

• Young girls don't even think about sex when they want to be sexy, so it's fine. This is bullshit. If that's false, then it may be something you want to discuss and monitor. If it's true, they will still be getting sexual attention, which means that they will have to manage that attention. I can't see many 13-year-old girls managing it well. Just because a girl can program the cell phone you didn't have when you were 13, or even know and care that there are problems in countries outside North America, doesn't mean they she can take an adult decision regarding sexual attention. It's not enough to assume that sex isn't on her mind. It likely is. (PDF)

Parents are up against a lot of competition these days. Glad I'm not one full-time. I wonder what real problems boys face, rather than the made-up ones. That will be for another post.

I want one

Not the end product, but the machine. Rose would enjoy the fuck out of this.

Blue Nuit

In-fucking-deed. That's why I've created this little blog here under the Cheeseorgy domain, Blue Nuit. Montrealers and other Canadians might recall its namesake, Bleu Nuit, on the airways. I used to watch it a few times Saturday nights in Ontario when my father would fall asleep watching the hockey game. Softcore, no big deal, but interesting because it was naughty. Part of the name also comes from the Cheeseorgy domain. Blue cheese is known for being pungent and strong-tasting without making you want to set fire to your taste buds. Blue Nuit, although having a small amount of hardcore content, is pretty much the same way.

I wasn't sure whether or not I was going to reveal this site, since the only readers are pretty much the local crowd with whom I hang once in a while. I don't want them to look at me differently. Consider this a "coming out" of sorts. It is, needless to say, NSFW, so take care in your viewing of this site. Don't let the frequency of posts fool you, by the way. It's VERY easy to make lots of lots of these posts. There isn't a whole lot of thinking happening there. But then, why think ALL the time? I'd say that there's enough of that happening already.

The content of this blog, as well as my more personal one will remain the same. The difference is that porn-oriented entries will be at the new location. Eventually I may get around to moving the existing ones (which are only opinion pieces anyway) over. I hope you all enjoy it (or forget its existence entirely).

Update: Don't take what's on that shirt to be my literal views. I know I shouldn't have to say this, but you never know.

Smoking and group sex

Vila at Montreal Metroblogs made an entry describing the possible hypocrisy of banning smoking behind closed private doors, and not banning group sex behind other doors.

Essentially, the court ruled the other day that since swingers clubs aren't exactly everywhere and what happens does not affect the greater society, they should be allowed to operate as they are. Perhaps the problem is the lack of understanding (or agreement) with the legal terminology. Swingers clubs are private clubs under the law, while bars, clubs and restaurants are not. I don't know what they are (public clubs?), but legally they are a different beast from private clubs.

No, you can't smoke at a swingers club. No, you can't smoke cigarettes at a cigar club. The argument that you should be able to have non-smoking establishments and smoking ones seems to make a LOT more sense in this light. Or maybe smoking hours and non-smoking hours. I would support this except that this has never really happened in Montreal. No one would dare trying to open a bar just for non-smokers, not here. Non-smokers are sick of not getting the good seats (although I think that this has changed recently) or putting up with other people's inconsiderate habits. One negative aspect of this law is that smoker friends will frequently leave to have their cigarettes. This seems a little rude to me after a while, as though they couldn't have fewer breaks, or smoke at the end of the night. Instead they get up every ten minutes (or so it seems, to a non-smoker) and, depending on the setting, disrupt the group. It may not be inconvenient to just the smokers.

It definitely seems strange that group sex is fine in a private place, but smoking cigarettes is not. Or more broadly, how one does not harm the public interest, but the other does. Maybe when group sex becomes as popular as smoking, with the same level of public profile and problems will they be treated the same way.

Quebec will breathe easier

Did you know that as of May 31, 2006, most public places in Quebec will be smoke-free including bars and restaurants? As if I didn't already know. If you watch CBC or Radio Canada, they tell you 10 times an hour. And you know what I'm going to get May 31, 2006? I'm going to get fucking blitzed is what I am going to get. I'm already planning a sick day for June 1.